How you feel about you impacts every area of your life; the actions you take, what you feel you deserve, your relationships and either what you settle for or aspire to.

In broad terms your level of worthiness correlates directly to the amount of happiness, love and success you will enjoy in this short period of time called ‘your life’.

As is the case for most people during the course of your life-time you will likely have picked up false beliefs about how loveable, clever, talented or deserving you are which may severely limit your potential and may keep you stuck for years. These limiting beliefs steal our joy and put the brakes on what we can achieve.

The good news is that this doesn’t always have to be ‘your story’ and that with awareness and a genuine desire for change you can be free of this old conditioned programming which was never who you were in the first place. It was precisely for this reason that I went through my own journey of personal development which inspired me to train as a coach to help other women.

Developing your self-esteem (self worth) is the foundation of change so what are the steps to developing this?

I would suggest that the first step is to examine what is not working in your life, taking an honest appraisal with compassion, understanding that we have developed coping mechanisms that were often developed in childhood. These coping mechanisms were about survival, as children we are extremely creative when our needs are not being met.  In the case of any negative behaviours which we are looking to change such as comfort eating, shopping, drinking too much, spending too much time on social media and not pursuing the activities that we know will take us in the direction of our goals it’s important to recognise that these are often distractions to numb uncomfortable feelings. When we are serious about change we usually arrive at a point when these behaviours no longer do the job of helping us numb out or in turn lead into bigger problems. We often arrive at a point where we are simply exhausted.

To make changes we need to learn new ways of being and for that we often need support.  Working with a coach can lead to rapid transformation freeing us of the shackles that have bound us enabling us to see things differently and because we see things differently we start to choose different behaviours.   The hard part is that many who suffer with low self-esteem find it extremely difficult to ask for help.  They feel unworthy to the degree that they don’t think that they deserve help and support.  Hello!  I am the messenger saying that you are worthy that you deserve to be happy and to fulfil your potential and live the life of your dreams. 

After years of living and feeling a particular way it is liberating to see how rapid change can be when you decide that you have had enough! You really can feel free, light and excited about life.  

Recommended reading

I highly recommend Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, considered by many the leading pioneer in the field of self-esteem.

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